When I go to sleep I try to make a point of giving myself permission to leave my day-time worries outside the bedroom. I endeavour to open myself totally to relaxation and the loving embrace of the energies on the inner side, so that I can wake up refreshed and maybe more inspired. I adopt what I call a starfish position in my bed – lying on my back with my arms and legs stretched out to the sides – which is my way of symbolising total surrender to relaxation.
Sleep is a treat. It’s a moment to let go. Anyway, nothing of a person’s external circumstances can be changed during the sleeping hours, so it makes no sense to worry. In fact, I might go so far as to say that we’re being violent to ourselves if we allow ourselves to have anxious, repetitive thoughts at a time when we have the opportunity to have some hours of respite and self-nourishment. It’s worth remembering that good sleeping patterns are also fundamentally important for physical healing and mental wellbeing.
If you’re having a very challenging time in your life, make sure to create a new routine for the hour or so before you go to bed so that you can consciously prepare yourself to rest and surrender your worries until the next day. There are many ways to do this; for example, by listening to relaxing music, taking a bath or doing some gentle yoga. I would recommend avoiding anything that involves words – talking, reading, watching TV, listening to a radio talk show – because words are linked to the rational mind, the very instrument that will lead the worry campaign into the night if it gets the chance.
Excerpt from “She Who Is Unto Herself”.