Aging – a vehicle for a new source of power

Aging can also be a cause for stress. That’s been my experience anyway. It’s tempting to remain fixated on the body as it grows older, especially as our Western societies tend to give great worth to the new, the beautiful, the fresh. It’s only when the barometer swings completely over to antique that appreciation around old things seems a little more apparent! Now in my mid-40s, all the road signs are pointing to over the hill and into the abyss. It’s likely that persons I’ve known since I was a child will die soon; that I or somebody close to me will have age-related health problems; that my skin and my body will begin to sag unless I resort to artificial means, which are expensive and risky. Ok, I admit it, it’s a mid-life crisis and my views are coloured by the space I occupy between no longer being young and not yet being old. I’m having to embrace my age and learn the lesson of where my power no longer lies. It’s sometimes helpful for me to look back and see how much I’ve grow, for example, over the last decade. Between my mid-30s and mid-40s, I dredged through plenty of life crises and challenges – like we all do. My ever-present inner drive to learn the spiritual lessons from outer events has meant that I now feel more aware of life’s mechanisms as well as of my automatic responses. I feel both more detached and more engaged. I would even pluck up the courage – despite my wrinkles – to say that I wouldn’t go back to my early 30s. I was more vulnerable then, less rooted in my inner self. Life’s tough lessons have taught me that often the only haven from emotional pain and psychological stress – i.e. the only place where I can relax – is the silence and peace of the ever still inner self. By turning inwards time and time again, I can explore and deepen the inner realm; a connection that strengthens with time. So it might well be that the older I get the more successful I become at holding my centre through life’s thick and thins. In this way, age can be the vehicle for a new source of power.

Excerpt from “She Who Is Unto Herself”.

9 thoughts on “Aging – a vehicle for a new source of power

    • Thanks Amitav. I appreciate very much your feedback. With the years, one starts to learn to distinguish between one’s own beliefs and perspectives and those we “inherited” or had “imposed” on us by our culture, society, family, religion, etc. Sometimes emotional and psychological pain can be the catalyst for deciding once and for all to claim back one’s power and to live life according to a set of “personalised” and more “empowering” criteria. Warmest good wishes, Sam 🙂

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      • Very well put Sam, In fact as we move ahead in life we learn many things and also gather some experience to unlearn quite a few things too. Yes, we are more aware and in a position to reclaim it and also learn to live it our way. Just taking one day at a time helps too. 🙂

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  1. I, at 73 can guarantee that. The only grief that comes from old age is when we try to be young. . . and of course health issues . . . that could have been alleviated all together if we were as smart as we thought we were when we were young.

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    • Thanks Jim. Our “modern” societies have lost touch with the concept of “the elders” i.e. the valuable wisdom that the older members of the community have through the fact of their life experience. Wise men and women were revered in the past – consulted and listened to. Nowadays, in line with our “eveything is disposable” mindset (which is also affecting the environment, which I know is a topic close to your heart), older people get all to often ignored, isolated, dumped in homes, etc. Like a consumer item that we chuck out and replace with something/somebody else. I just feel something is out of balance in our Western societies between dualities like young/old, new/used, male/female. I feel there needs to be more integration. Warmest greetings, Sam

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  2. “Now in my mid-40s, all the road signs are pointing to over the hill and into the abyss.”
    When I was in my mid-40’s, it never occured to me that I was old or even getting old. I thought old was somewhere past 60. I recently read a blogger who was struggling with being old – who had just turned 30. All I can say to young people who think they are old is “you still have a long, long, road ahead to travel.” Don’t artificially put yourself where you don’t need to be.

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  3. Thanks Rachael 🙂 If it helps, I do nuance the initial statement by saying: “Ok, I admit it, it’s a mid-life crisis and my views are coloured by the space I occupy between no longer being young and not yet being old.” Warmest good wishes to you, Sam 🙂

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    • Wow! Thanks so much Tanya. I’m really delighted you’ve enjoyed my posts. I hope I can continue to share short articles that are meaningful and either thought-provoking or inspiring – or ideally both. Warmest good wishes to you, and once again many thanks for your support. Sam 🙂

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