As mentioned in a previous post, only a very small component of the tantric path, if any, focuses on sexual practice. For this reason, I feel that some of the sacred sexuality courses available in the West put the cart before the horse. Yes, the sex, absolutely; I’m totally into exploring the sacred nature of my human sexuality. However, the first step is surely to acquire a significant depth of knowledge about oneself and others (including our lover) as physical-spiritual beings. I feel this is especially important because by integrating Tantra into our spiritual practice we have an opportunity to, in some way, heal the male/female and physical/spiritual fault lines within our individual selves, between our self and our lover, as well as at the more encompassing transpersonal level.
In his book “The Art of the Transpersonal Self”, Norbert Koppensteiner explains how the transpersonal refers to our “relationality with partial others within the aesthetic/energetic sphere”. He goes on to clarify that: “The human being is from the outset transpersonal and in part determined by others and co-determining towards them. Each action we take never only affects our self alone – since within the relationality of the aesthetic/energetic sphere there is no such thing as a ‘self alone’. […] one’s own actions might reverberate through this aesthetic/energetic sphere and concretely affect the partial others.”
This concept of the transpersonal plane is valid for all of our actions and thoughts, in any of our daily settings, not solely in the frame of sexual relations. It’s through the transpersonal sphere that, for example, prayers or good wishes can positively impact others. Similarly, and yet with a more negative repercussion, any expressions of anger or revenge we may indulge in also hold the potential to energetically impact the person we’re directing these unpleasant emotions and thoughts towards, which is why the notion of karma and personal responsibility is so important.
Sam Red, 12 August 2015
 Koppensteiner, N. (2009) Art of the Transpersonal Self. Atropos Press: New York & Dresden, p.147.
 Koppensteiner, N. (2009) Art of the Transpersonal Self. Atropos Press: New York & Dresden, pp.147-148.