Surrendering to Life

Joy felt as if she were living in No (Wo)Man’s Land – between the temporal and the universal. It was an unenviable place between two worlds. Tired of her lower state of consciousness, she was learning in her meditation practice to focus her awareness at a level beyond everyday emotions and thinking. When she managed it, she immediately felt very peaceful. She was determined to make peace her habitual state of mind – not just during those minutes of meditation but throughout the entire day. Somehow she had to achieve this. She couldn’t keep living as if part of her self were dead; as if she couldn’t wait to get through life – to get to the end. There had to be more meaning, more significance to this experience of living life as a human.

Joy was aware that her physical body was never fully relaxed. Whenever she stopped to take notice, she realised that she was frowning, clenching her fists or holding her breath. She found it required all her efforts to achieve relaxation. As soon as she took her mind off the task, she discovered her muscles had tensed up again. She remembered the times her father, Dino, had taken her on a short holiday somewhere. Those were the rare occasions when she felt relaxed for slightly longer periods – hours, maybe even days. She would allow herself to be like a child again. Her father would organise their time, which would be filled with tennis and swimming, or outings into the countryside and to picturesque places. He would show great interest in her plans and ideas. If she needed anything, he would do his utmost to ensure she got it. Many people had commented that she was spoilt. Perhaps she was, but she was also extremely grateful. The sense of relaxation Joy felt during those trips away with her father was essentially a form of surrender. She would let go of her troubles because she felt protected from her vulnerability, after which she could enjoy what she was doing without fear or worry.

Joy could see how it might be possible to surrender to Life, in a similar way. She could imagine giving up her fears, putting an end to her worrying and living with faith that whatever she needed would be provided. That surrender couldn’t be a passive act; rather, it required an actively aware state of mind.

Excerpt from “My Name is Joy”


20 thoughts on “Surrendering to Life

  1. Absolutely. Fantastic read and it speaks the truth and unravels that life has much deeper meanings, that we can actually fathom. As you mentioned only an active mind, in this pursuit to make life meaningful can live life with Joy.

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  2. Thanks for the post, I am realizing more and more that surrender is not a passive act, you are very right it requires us to be aware, to feel and experience

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    • Thanks for the feedback Karen 🙂 Yes, from my perspective, surrendering takes courage and is also a sign of empowerment, so it is “active”. Importantly, surrender is not the same thing as resignation or throwing in the towel. Greetings, Sam 🙂


  3. This post really resonated with me today, Sam. I attended my first Quaker meeting over the weekend: an hour of silence broken by one speaker, a man who shared about his father’s passing the week before. Some members asked me how I liked their service, but I really couldn’t bring myself to evaluate it in those terms. I was amazed how fast the hour went by, although there were moments of anxiety. When you are in a group of people committed to waiting quietly there is nowhere to hide from yourself. All my aches and pains, worries and fears were there ready for me to attend to them. I didn’t know what to think at first, but as the day wore on I felt a great sense of energy and comfort. I had to be active in that hour, but the momentum is still carrying me forward. I’m glad I was there to make that choice and that others were there with me.

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    • Wow, sounds like a very meaningful and touching meeting. Thanks for sharing how you experienced it. I have never been to a Quaker meeting, however, I have huge respect for Quakers because the ones I have met have been very authentic and heart-felt persons 🙂

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      • I have meditated before, sometimes in large classes, but there was something a bit different in the Quaker Meeting, at least for me. Maybe a focused expectation of a response? Not sure. I’ve also enjoyed yoga, which provides something to do while you are waiting, so the struggle is externalized rather than internalized. Different, but related, and all wonderful.

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    • Thanks so much for your interest in my posts and for expressing this by including me in your Sisterhood Award. My answers to your questions are as follows:
      1. Your favourite book and why?
      Andre van Lysebeth’s “Tantra – The Cult of the Feminine”. He gives such a down-to-earth and humorous perspective on Tantra. I totally resonate with this guy. Wish he were still around on this earthly plane.
      2. If you were an animated character who would you be?
      Pass. I don’t have a TV or watch many movies.
      3. Your all-time favourite band?
      I can’t say a band. I tend to favourite tracks – ones that have some meaning and aren’t just about romantic love e.g. “With my own two hands” by Ben Harper or “Where is the love” by Black Eyed Peas or “Love’s divine” by Seal.
      4. If you could have your dream Job right now what would it be?
      I used to be the study director of a postgraduate peace programme until our little peace academy got taken over by an aggressive competitor that shut us down. I loved that job.
      5. If you could be any age for a week what age would you be?
      I like being the age I am. I’m enjoying the learning and maturing as the years go by.
      6. What word best describes you?
      Ummh, can I pass on this.
      7. Have you ever danced in the rain? How did it feel?
      I don’t like being wet, except for when I go swimming. I dislike having wet hair after a shower, so dancing in the rain wouldn’t be a favourite pastime 😉
      8. If you had a brainwashing machine who would you use it on?
      Well, anyone who imposes cultural violence on others e.g. sexist, racist or fanatic people.
      9. Safari or a holiday by the sea?
      The sea – I love the sound of the waves and the positive ions are mega good for one’s health.
      10. What phrase best describes you?
      Oh, this is similar to question 6, but one phrase would be: “Crazily passionate about cats”.
      Blessings, Sam


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