Power of non-judgement to transform conflict

Arguably the most well-known hero of non-violent action was Mahatma Gandhi; although there are plenty of other persons – nowadays and in the past – who have shown huge civil courage in the face of repression, violence and injustice. Even though some of us will, thankfully, never be confronted by the life-threatening and deeply traumatic circumstances faced and endured by human rights defenders and oppressed persons around the globe, even our more privileged lives can get tough, challenging and seemingly unjust at times. On those occasions, we can learn from forerunners like Gandhi, who have led by example and in so doing have paved the way for us to more easily follow.

Gandhi didn’t condone violent behaviour or injustice. However, whilst holding an attitude of non-judgement (as recommended also by the tantric path), he demonstrated his dissent using direct, non-violent action rooted in a deep love for all human beings and Life itself. In this way, he came to win over even some of his staunchest opponents, who eventually began to admire and respect him even if they held very different perspectives to him.[1] The main idea behind non-judgement is to refrain from labelling things as good or bad, right or wrong, etc. As soon as you begin labelling, you’ll find yourself in the jungle of the rational mind – with its embedded social constructs, memories/experiences from the past, and more. When in the clutches of the lower mind, we’re normally far away from the unconditional love of our transrational self (our true divine nature), which can open us up to insights and actions that have the potential to break the mould of solidified conflict. From a place of non-judgment, new and previously unconsidered options and ways forward can more easily be revealed to us.

Excerpt from “Looking for Tantra”

[1] See for example: Fischer, L. (1997) The Life of Mahatma Gandhi. Harper Collins: London.

9 thoughts on “Power of non-judgement to transform conflict

  1. So true about the non-judgement…but even when you are living in awareness it is hard to not slip into those old patterns that you were brought up with: this is good, that is bad….did I do this right? Is that wrong?..it does take effort to be in the place of non-judgement. Maybe in non-dualism it comes effortless?

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    • Yes, I agree, unconditional love and non-judgement oftentimes require our concerted effort and discernment, especially in the face of injustice and discrimination (structural/cultural violence) and extreme physical aggression (direct violence). Non-duality assumes that god/dess is immanent and not only transcendent. As such, the saying “all you’re looking for is within you” takes on greater truth. For example, I’ve found that gradually there is less searching for joy and fulfilment from the outside (other people, events, possessions, etc.). Through the strengthening of this inner anchor/reality/truth, we come more closely in touch with our innate joy/bliss. From this vantage point, unconditional love and non-judgement are easier to maintain. However, until we become “enlightened”, aligning with our divine nature will be an ongoing process. Let’s be gentle on ourselves 😉 Love & blessings, Sam 🙂


  2. Wonderfully put – you’re so great with words, Sam! …. and your writing reflects your own process. You do seem to have found that inner anchor. If you aren’t enlightened yet, you sure are shining a bright light already 🙂

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  3. You were born to write! A wonderful post Sam, brimming with deep truth and karmic wisdom. I wholly resonate with your spiritual insight that along the way, we seek less joy and happiness outside of ourselves, fully accepting that we are to look for them, within. Gia, strikes a chord for many when she asks … ‘but even when you are living in awareness it is hard to not slip into those old patterns that you were brought up with.’ So very true, for even when I respond in old, unhelpful ways, sometimes the only difference between then and now is that I ‘get it’ and understand what’s going on … hours, days and sometimes years earlier than I used to … ‘an ongoing process’ indeed. Thank you for posting this thought provoking excerpt from your recent book ‘Looking for Tantra’ which I was fortunate to receive as a wonderful present for Christmas. Lucky me! Warm winter wishes, Deborah.

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    • Dear Deborah, I’m blessed to receive your hugely generous words of support/encouragement and your thought-provoking comments 🙂 Thanks so much 🙂 Yes, I know what you mean by catching oneself “respond[ing] in old, unhelpful ways, [and that] sometimes the only difference between [before] and now is that I ‘get it’ and understand what’s going on … hours, days and sometimes years earlier than I used to.” Thank the Goddess we can laugh about it and get quickly back to our “true selves” 😉 Love & blessings, Sam 🙂


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