Loving without expectation or ownership

Her experiment to discover the spiritual reality behind physical-plane existence had brought with it a growing capacity to love without expectations or neediness. In all her interactions, not only in her intimate relations, Joy endeavoured to radiate positivity and a loving disposition. She felt it was her duty to interact with others in this way. She had learnt to let go. She knew she had no control over what the other person did, said or felt. The only guarantee she had was the relationship she was building with her Self. This was the only constant. It gave meaning to her life.

Love without expectationJoy brought her developing capacity to love without expectations into her relationship with Gino. She knew they would be together for as long as was right. That might be until the end of their lives. It might be sooner. One of them might decide to end the relationship. She no longer feared that and didn’t feel the need to grasp. Joy loved Gino deeply. She smiled whenever she thought of him. They slept lying intertwined. Whenever their relationship ended – through death or separation – the beauty of what they had at that moment would live on as an echo in the “ether”. Only the recourse to hatred, intolerance or grief, which was the reaction of so many divided couples, could take that beauty away.

Extract from my book “My Name is Joy”

Photo c/o Karin Henseler a.k.a sciencefreak on Pixabay http://bit.ly/1rtbCwU

13 thoughts on “Loving without expectation or ownership

  1. I always enjoy your insights, Sam. It is true that we focus on the outcomes; instead of what drives the outcomes. Each partner grasping the moment and their own particular impact on the moment.

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    • Thanks, Rob. I find romantic love to be one of those areas in which, according to mainstream Western society, an external element (in this case a person) is expected to bring us happiness. Other external elements include jobs, money, possessions, appearance. However, as you would likely agree, any state of happiness that is dependent on an external element is destined to deteriorate – unless, that is, a person is able to tap into their innate joy and can then use external elements simply as tools (or gifts) to reconnect with that joy. Love & blessings, Sam 🙂

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