Hand-in-hand with “playfulness” comes laughter i.e. being able to see the funny side in a situation or, at least, having the necessary level of non-attachment to finda way to laugh notwithstanding the challenges of our circumstances. For this reason, I like the love-laugh-learn combination: love implies always being open and receptive; laugh is synonymous with non-attachment and playfulness, and; learn connotes the recognition that in every life experience there’s an opportunity to grow spiritually, which is an empowering insight.
On the topic of laughter, it’s clear that the aim is never to hurt a person, never to laugh at him/her. Laughing at is only possible when we’re in the illusion of separateness; as soon as we resonate with the tantric concept that we’re all energetically one being, we can only ever laugh with another person.
“Tantra asks us to go beyond the traditional stance of the cool, utterly detached observer of all our experiences. It recommends the more refined position of witnessing while at the same time understanding that observer and observed are not ultimately distinct. The Tantric approach is to see all life experiences as the play of the same One.”
Sam Red, 1 August 2015
 Feuerstein, G. (1998) Tantra: the Path to Ecstasy. Shamballa Publications: Boston & London, p.60.
Reiki seemed to offer an accelerated route to the inner self. This route to the Self is by nature full of challenges; yet now, Joy could equate crises in her personal life with opportunities for spiritual growth. She believed that when higher vibrations entered the subtle energy bodies – as happened through regular Reiki, meditation and other spiritual practices – some lower frequencies that were present were likely to be dislodged and the subtle bodies pressured to resonate at a higher level. She knew by direct experience that this could be painful and cause emotional, physical or mental suffering; at least until the process was understood and resistance had given way to surrender. Joy was discovering that surrender was not an act of weakness. In contrast, it was a source of extreme power and creativity. It was a process of stilling and focusing the mind – keeping it away from any thoughts of the past or the future, from judgements or self-flagellation. She was convinced that surrender was a form of empowerment derived from the creativity that is inherent in the moment – a power which is our divine right and duty to develop.